There’s consequences to that action …

SHOT IN THE HEAD: Emergency personnel used a stretcher to carry Rep. Gabrielle Giffords outside a shopping center in Tucson, Ariz. on Saturday. (Pic: James Palka/Associated Press via New York Times - click)

As I see it, Gabrielle Giffords (‘whom the authorities called the target of the attack‘) is a victim of the partisan climate of hate engendered by political differences and the hateful abuse by some Republican ‘leaders’ of their opponents (‘The Left’) as enemies — like, in war! Some use that rhetoric and emotional energy for electoral purposes. This isn’t the first and it won’t be the last time people get hurt by such cynical, thoughtless stridency.

From last year Rep. Giffords (D-AZ) responds to earlier vandalism incident at her office and being placed on Sarah Palin’s ‘crosshairs’ list.

“We’re on Sarah Palin’s targeted list. But the thing is the way that she has it depicted has the crosshairs of a gun site over our district. People do that they’ve got to realize there’s consequences to that action.”

Talking Points Memo

Sarah Palin certainly read the icons as BULLSEYES ...

An aide to Sarah Palin claims the crosshairs depicted in her now-infamous target list of Democrats were not actually gun-sights, and that it’s “obscene” and “appalling” to blame Palin for the shooting.

“We never ever, ever intended it to be gun sights. It was simply cross-hairs like you’d see on maps,” said Rebecca Mansour on the Tammy Bruce radio show. Moreover, there was “nothing irresponsible” about the image, and to draw a line connecting Palin and Saturday’s shooting is “obscene” and “appalling.” […] Mansour called the crosshairs “surveyor marks.”

Talking Points Memo

Map cross-hairs”? “Surveyor marks”? Bullshit. The link is self-evident. Transparent sophistry. Continue reading →

Learning how smart our elders can be …

Mark Twain (image: nalanda.nitc.ac.in)

“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned.”
— Mark Twain

That’s true. And funny.

And then there are times when it seems the old guard really has nothing to offer us but judgemental rigidity, opposition, and ballooning irritation … and irrelevance.

Far from the wisdom we may have hoped for, there are times when calls to support ‘traditional values’ (sometimes citing ‘simpler times’ or ‘it never did us any harm’) are merely a thin veil masking ill-founded prejudice.

Sometimes people in power seek to corruptly (tough word, but accurate) shield themselves or other oppressors of ‘the different’ — the ‘out group’. Or (in true Tory tradition) they may seek merely to preserve the existing power structure and privilege.

And sometimes, I’m sorry to report, the driving force in some people’s lives (old or young) appears to be just undeclared personal animosity, or a desire to disguise or conceal weakness or sin (their own or others).

The attainment of grey hair, or miles on the road, it seems, can be accompanied by either Continue reading →

Not exactly a whodunnit

‘Dispersing lies’ — that’s what I’ve been accused of doing, by ‘expert in lying‘, spruiker Dean Letfus.

No real mystery here.

His detail-free allegation (by broadcast email and on his blog) comes with bonus faulty logic and an extra smear topping: that I am allegedly doing this (‘dispersing lies’) as ‘a competitor’ — which is kind of an understated assertion of ill-motives on my part.
i.e. not just a liar … but ‘dispersing lies’ because of commercial rivalry! (Thoroughly corrupt, in other words.)

What value has such an accusation against me, without the slightest hint of evidence in support?

Of course smearing one’s critics is a time-honoured (but dishonourable) practice. Why trouble yourself, if you’re Dean Letfus, explaining how exactly it is you say you’ve been maligned — with a detailed rebuttal — when it’s easier just to jab a vague allegation of impropriety at the whistle-blower?

It’s shabby, in my opinion. And so was his response to this … Continue reading →

Adam – a movie about Asperger syndrome

I recommend you watch Adam, a terrific film about the struggles of someone with Asperger syndrome.

Adam — I recommend this movie

What a lovely, moving, poignant story! See this movie if you have anyone in your life who you think could possibly have Asperger’s tendencies. It will help you empathise (is this my word for 2011?) with their journey and some of the obstacles that they — and those who love them — face.

The movie is illuminating and, for those who care about people with Asperger’s tendencies, it tells an inspiring and sympathetic story … it is moving without being cloying or overly sentimental.

Well done to writer/director Max Mayer and his team of filmmakers and the cast. Wonderful. Read more about it at Wikipedia

Thanks to my good friend Karen S who put the DVD in my hand without knowing the topic is one of the themes of this blog.

And if you haven’t yet, listen to the soundtrack of this insightful documentary ‘Oops, Wrong Planet’, by Australian Stephen Ramsey … broadcast by Radio NZ’s Our Changing World: under the title Living with Asperger Syndrome

What does your ‘opinion’ reveal about you?

image: youropinioncounts.org (click)

People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Everyone is entitled to my opinion.
attributed to pop singer Madonna

Now, there’s a powerful pair of thoughts.

Expressing one’s ‘opinion of the world’ through writing is, by its very nature, the result of a function of filtration. The same is true of spoken or conversationally expressed opinions, by virtue of time constraints, but let’s discuss writing…

Consider the stream-of-consciousness ramblings of the Beat writers or the sometimes self-indulgent rants of Gonzo ‘journalists’ whose writing sought to be as much about their reactions to ‘what happened’ as what happened itself.

Even with these less filtered versions of ‘an account’, there is still a focus. There has to be.

Someone’s journal (whether recorded on calfskin or WordPress) can be all over the place or it can be a series of meditations on a theme. Loose or tight.

When I look back at a year or so’s scribblings here at thePaepae.com, I perceive both randomness and, if not actually a ‘pattern’, at least recurring themes. Is that my life? No, of course not. My entries in this blog reflect what has captured my attention sufficiently — that I guess others might be interested in — that I can be bothered recording/offering it for discussion here. (‘A platform for dialogue’, remember?)

Naturally, themes will occur as new stimulus hooks onto previous topics, and new developments emerge in ongoing ‘stories’. I’m also very grateful for comments where other people bring their insights, intelligence — and lately: information — to bear on a discussion. Great.

Past influences

One’s interests today bear the mark of our interests before. (Hence, I guess that recent unedifying message from a grave-dancer telling me about the recent struggles of someone whom HE perceived as a past ‘enemy’ of mine.)

We remain connected — until we unplug, that is — to issues, events and people to whom we have been connected in the past, for good or ill. These connections can lose their usefulness, and even become toxic, but nevertheless remain in place through inertia, or habit … or lack of better alternatives. Continue reading →

In their shoes …

I was surprised recently when someone whom I know is in financial trouble himself emailed me with news of another person’s financial and personal struggles. He said he thought I’d be ‘interested’, as the person and I had previously had some negative interchanges. What the hell?

Truly, it struck me as ghoulish, almost akin to dancing on someone’s grave, to receive this attempted encouragement to delight in someone else’s downfall. No thanks.

I saw this road safety sign on the Desert Road on my way to be with family, and agreed with the sentiment, and also the point of view …

Encouraging empathy as a road safety message (pic by Peter Aranyi)

The longer I live, the more I learn that EMPATHY is the factor that sets people apart as truly human. What does it take for us to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes before we condemn them?

Sometimes, (many times?) the kindest thing to do in any situation is tell the truth. i.e. Not to make excuses or pardon or ‘cover’ someone else’s sin or offence, but to find a way to speak the truth — even the harsh, judgemental truth — with compassion.

So as we count down to 2011, here’s to the whistle-blowers who overcame their squeamishness and fear, who took their courage in their hands, who overcame their desire to be ‘liked’ (i.e. to avoid criticism) to give their gifts in 2010.

And let’s hear it for those who can reprove without condemnation, and oppose without totally losing their empathy for those whose behaviour they judge.

The escape of exnzpat, Part 6

Becky wakes

Lilith turned back towards the woman and the child. She placed one hand on the boy and the other on the woman; a spark of static leapt from her fingers and into their sleeping forms. Imperceptibly the right hand of the boy began to move under his sheet, and so too did the left hand of the woman, under hers.

Slowly, the two hands slid from beneath their respective sheets and reached towards each other. Lilith guided their stretching hands into each other’s grasp. Upon each face, there was a change, small and imperceptible, but it was there all the same. Their cheeks flushed just a little redder and the woman’s lips moved just ever so slightly to form a quiet comfortable smile.

“A little humility would do you good exnzpat; stop thinking of yourself!” Lilith said, and walked away from me. She walked towards the edge of the glade. “It is time to leave. These two are far from ripe and the Moon will soon be up. We must let the Moon do her work. Come exnzpat! Come Lincoln!”

I picked Becky up and followed dutifully. We left the woman and the child to the Moon. I was becoming tired; too tired to ask Lilith what any of it meant.

“Exnzpat?” Lilith asked.

“Yes.”

“I take it from your earlier silence that you do not think me a good woman?”

I could tell this walk to the apothecary was going to take longer than it should.

Three of Time, one of Space – but also – one of Lilith! Continue reading →

Fallen hero?

Yes, I'd pretty much call it a hate campaign against Mark Hotchin. (NZ Herald)

There’s a particular kind of anger and outrage sparked when you feel someone has shafted you financially.

I’ve been reflecting on the strength of feeling expressed by some commenters in the thread ‘Is this how Shaun Stenning handles a request for a refund?‘ and the public and private reversal of fortunes experienced by some former financial ‘high-flyers’.

Someone who has made promises that you trusted or made claims of financial ‘strength’ or ‘integrity’ or ‘security’ … using words and documents which basically say ‘you can trust me’ or claims that things are ‘designed to withstand storms’ … really does set themselves up for a fall when things go against them.

Even more so, using the vehicle of a personal guarantee to set minds at rest about an innately risky venture you are promoting (or spruiking.)

A case in point: Hanover Finance (who we last discussed here). The fall from grace of this previously hyped-up but reasonably successful, for a time, money lender (“built to withstand the toughest conditions”) has provoked what can only be described as a hate campaign against the former director Mark Hotchin.

Reporters are door-stepping him and hassling him at the airport, and on holiday … and he receives continual news media coverage of the most intense and unflattering kind, constantly questioning why he should have any ‘luxury’ in his life when the people who trusted him have lost so much.

A gummint agency has frozen his assets and poured scorn on his claims that his weekly commitments can’t be met by $1000 per week. He is seen by many, it seems, as a figure worthy of contempt. Not a good place to be.

Journey of grief

It creates bilious feelings when someone whom you trusted (rightly or wrongly) — because they made statements, promises and ‘projections’ on which you relied — lets you down in a way that affects you financially.

It may be they may have promulgated claims of financial ‘strength’ or ‘integrity’ or ‘security’ … using words and documents like ‘first ranking debenture’, ‘security’, ‘guaranteed’ and slogans like ‘you can trust us’. (These devices along with copious declarations of their own good character are often used to soothe potential targets’ fears.)

When someone who overtly claimed superiority (moral or to do with ‘expertise’) actually proves to be weak, it hurts … especially if they gave you abundant voluble ‘reasons’ to trust them: “I am a man of high integrity, an expert, one of the best, I know what I’m doing.”

Confession time

In that context, I read the recent sobering confession (is that the right word? Maybe owning up to reality fits better) of a local personality who features in these pages from time to time.

He admitted that he’d been through ‘relative hell in many ways’ over the last two years, and, despite his sales-focused roadshows and the affirming messages he’d peddled to his followers throughout, he and several of his ‘clients’ had in fact been struggling just to ‘stay afloat‘ … and he has, sadly, found himself in a position where he can’t meet financial obligations. Continue reading →

Happy Christmas

NZ Christmas Tree — Pohutukawa (pic by Peter Aranyi)

Happy Christmas to all readers and contributors at thePaepae.com

My wish for you is that you get the chance to re-connect with family and loved ones. Whatever your religious or spiritual beliefs, may you get the time and opportunity for some positive reflection … and I hope that you take it!

I’m going to be on holiday with my family over the next few weeks so offline much of the time (that’s just how we do it), hence posting and responding to comments here will be delayed.

Best wishes, Peter Aranyi

Sometimes it seems pretty obvious

In my in-box … an obvious scam…

… why would anyone respond?  (But I guess it only takes a small percentage …)

PT Barnum: “There’s a sucker born every minute.”

It’s raining Memphis!

… Memphis properties, that is. ‘Distressed’ or ‘bargain’ properties. Cheap cheap cheap!!

A little while ago in ‘Safe investing means doing your homework‘ I mentioned that some members of the United Federation of Property Spruikers have moved onto shifting US properties to Kiwis and Australians. The exact commission structure (i.e. what’s in it for them) isn’t clear from the outside, but I assume they’re getting a clip of each ‘bargain’ sale that the lambs to the slaughter er, clients actually buy. If anyone reading this can clarify those arrangements, please drop me a line at the email address here.

I pointed to a recent promotional email doing the rounds in typical bullish tones, in this case inviting people who want to “retire through property in 2011 without hype, nonsense or unfounded promises” and “create cash flow safely, simply and fast!” to join a sales-pitch/educational tour taking in Phoenix and Memphis early next year — to look at the exceptional ‘opportunities’ the local spruikers will find for the strangers on their shores.

Well, out of nowhere (i.e. I didn’t sign up for the emails) I’ve now started receiving email promotions from a spruiker in Blackpool, England (!) offering me … guess what? … cheap properties in Memphis! Ha! Who woulda thunk it? See… this is today’s message:

Email marketing from a UK-based promoter selling 'amazing deals' in Memphis USA to investors

Don’t you love the Christmas theme? Classy.

Now, call me skeptical (I’ve been called worse) but I just wonder how and why these ‘amazing’ these deals with their ‘amazing’ finance packages aren’t being snaffled up by the locals. Why is that, do you think, if they’re soooo amazing? Huh?

I pay attention on these matters and others to Australian author and whistle-blower Neil Jenman, scourge of the property spruikers, who says it loud and says it plain (written for Aussies, but tune in Kiwis):

AMERICAN WARNING

A deadly trap for Aussie investors.

by Neil Jenman

Here’s a confident prediction: Hundreds (probably thousands) of Australian investors are going to lose millions of dollars in the American property market.

Right now, it seems to be all the rage, the latest fad. Buy real estate in the United States. It’s easy. Prices for American homes are so low and our dollar is so high that an investment in ‘the home of the brave and the land of the free’ seems like a really good idea.

Unfortunately, it’s not a good idea. For the average mum-and-dad Australian investor, buying real estate in America is a very bad idea. Never mind what the Aussie spruikers tell you, never mind how good it sounds, it really is too good to be true.

These days, a number of Australian spruikers have set up companies and are selling real estate in America to Aussies. Some of the men ‘behind’ these companies are the same villains who were once ripping off investors with over-priced property deals in Australia. As any police officer will tell you, once a crook, always a crook. Continue reading →

Nice-looking bike!

This caught my eye in Howick yesterday … Nice!

It looks great — so why so bashful about calling it a Suzuki? (pic by Peter Aranyi) Click to read specs.

It’s a Suzuki Boulevard M109R Limited Edition … I didn’t see the word ‘Suzuki’ on it anywhere … which made me think about the power of branding … and my friend Mark’s latest ‘low cost’ mode of transport (well, compared to his Range Rover):

Nice windscreen wipers, but Isn't the air-conditioning a bit wasted on this? (pic by Peter Aranyi)

What statements do these two bikes declare about their owners? Is it like what dogs say about their owners?

When listing achievements, always use the third person …

Peter McWilliams Self-Publishing, Self-Taught

One of my heroes was Peter McWilliams who taught me so much about life in general, and publishing in particular (along with my pal Roger Steele, on both counts).

In 1991, Peter McWilliams published a terrifically practical and instructive book on publishing — Self-Publishing, Self-Taught … which he sold for US$95 — and that price point was one of the first lessons about publishing. I bought a copy in the early 1990s directly from him. It’s one of my treasures.

On the back cover it says…

$95*
(no kidding)

with the *pointing to text which reads:

“* For $95 you get everything (well almost everything) Peter McWilliams knows about self-publishing. His self-publishing credentials include: a series of poetry books that has sold 3.4 million copies, a book on mediation that was #1 on the New York Times best seller list, How to Survive the Loss of Love with 2 million copies in print, a series of computer books (including The Personal Computer Book) which sold 1.6 million copies, You Can’t Afford the Luxury of Negative Thought with 300,000 copies in print, LIFE 101 (another New York Times best seller) and DO IT which is also a New York Times best seller.
It took him 24 years to accomplish all this, and what he learned cost him far more than $95. Among the things he’s learned is, when listing achievements, always use the third person — it doesn’t sound like bragging. This is precisely the technique he used when writing this paragraph. If you don’t get $95 worth of value from this book, he will send you a refund. He is now going to get something to eat.”


That last line, ‘He is now going to get something to eat’ was typical of the playful, self-aware sense of humour (and humility) McWilliams displayed in his writing. He was a wonderful writer and human being and a part of me still mourns his loss.

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I was reminded of that rule: ‘When listing achievements, always use the third person‘ when I stumbled across this positively gushing biographical ‘blurb’ about travelling salesman and ‘internet marketing’ guru Shaun Stenning (posted BY Shaun Stenning, it says) … on the Hubpages website … funnily enough, on the very same website through which someone mysteriously attempted to fool Google into linking the word s-c-a-m with my name.
Well, what do you know? I thought. Shaun Stenning is a contributor to that very same website! Hmmm…

Anyway, enjoy this, but make sure you’re sitting down in case you fall down — it’s pretty rich (e.g. ‘the seeds of greatness were always there!’):

Gee, he sounds WONDERFUL. So why all the complaints and demands for refunds?

Who Is Shaun Stenning?

by Shaun Stenning

Shaun Stenning is no stranger to hard work. In fact it is hard to believe what he has done at such a young age. From partly trained accountant to personal trainer to barman, the seeds of greatness were always there, but it was the internet that was ultimately calling.

Today the “You can’t be only 25” year old Shaun Stenning is recognized on almost every continent as one of the world’s best internet marketers and IM educators.

Shaun’s passion for people and his industry is infectious and infiltrates every area of his organisation.

After 8 years of running internet businesses for himself Shaun has built an incredible faculty of successful online entrepreneurs over the last 2 years through events and ongoing education around the world.

First he proved that the internet was a goldmine for himself, then he built systems to help every day, “non-techy” people get great results for themselves. Continue reading →

Is narcissism the new normal?

Hilarious! (image: Huffington Post - click)

I love the irony in this news.

Apparently an upcoming revision of the psychiatric diagnostic standards manual, the DSM-V, has removed the narcissistic personality disorder from its roster… does that mean it has become so pervasive that it’s no longer thought of as pathological?

Is narcissism the new normal?

Well, maybe it is.

Certainly it would explain why people like this can make such exaggerated and misleading statements and claims about their own legend-in-their-own-lunchbox-style success, achievements and so-called ‘status’.

Read about some of the issues here at Huffington Post in this intriguing article from Judith Acosta.

(PS Is it narcissistic to have a blog?)

Getting your brand into your customers eyes?

One of the books I read which changed the way I looked at the world was Vance Packard’s late 1950s The Hidden Persuaders — an account of how psychology entered the advertising industry. I recommend it. Funnily enough Bob Dylan recounted one of his NYC hosts telling him in the 1960s that the ‘high priests’ of psychology all worked in advertising.

BMW tried a new trick. (click to view video)

This video clip is about an experimental advertisement for BMW motorbikes which used a bright photographic flash through a stencil to imprint the company logo on the audience’s retinas.

Interesting (and effective?)  when it was combined with a script that played a bit of a parlour trick on them.

Watch a mini behind-the-scenes-doco and the ad (below the fold)… Continue reading →