One of my favourite ‘let me off the hook’ quotes expressing wisdom is this:
Do I contradict myself?
Very well then I contradict myself,
(I am large, I contain multitudes.)
‘Song of Myself’ — Walt Whitman, US poet (1819 – 1892)
I have at various times, to my cost, roasted myself on a bed of burning coals by the name of ‘consistency’.
Why?
Well, partly because I was brought up with the old saying ‘What’s good for the goose is good for the gander’ — that, and a dose of trying to be the same person in all circumstances (i.e. my personal pursuit of sincerity and integrity — words I barely utter in public because to do so, in my observation, seems to mark one out as just the opposite.)
My thoughts about this are prompted today by the unholy sight of a smear campaign under way on a forum I visit. To compound things, the chief protagonist in this case is a creature who — falsely in my personal view — trumpets the superiority of his own ethics every chance he gets. Indeed, he’s recently adopted such a claim as part of the latest positioning statement for his, um, enterprise.
The creature’s target is a person whom I know and trust, and who has just ended a protracted bout of litigation against someone whose case I understand is of dubious merit, and whose history contains other claims of grievance against former employers.
I can speak from first-hand experience in saying that civil litigation is a very expensive process … fraught with stress and difficult compromise. The outcome of the justice system can sometimes be anything but just — especially when it comes to civil litigation or employment grievance-type matters.
Of course there are two sides to every story. But it saddens me to see people shooting off at the lip — publicly and naming names — without seeking the other side of the story. Having met or corresponded with some of those making what look to me like ignorant comments and calls for sanctions, I honesty would have expected more fair-mindedness from them.
The hypocrite mentioned earlier is another case entirely. I have observed him and his various business partners du jour cynically engaging in quite deliberate smears of other people and businesses. Very nasty stuff, in my opinion.*
I personally know that he flings his stones from a very glassy place … yet hubris and, perhaps a personal or commercial grudge against my friend have (it seems to me) made him lose perspective.
Which could happen to any of us, couldn’t it?
* Previous activities including attacking a journalist for reporting bankruptcy proceedings and calling a bank economist a ‘crazed sadistic basher’ have been mentioned here on The Paepae before. See this post.
From Wikipedia
Ha! I’ve believed this ‘without wax’ explanation for years … since I heard it from Dr Denis Waitley.
Too bad.
Consistency is a prized jewel, to be sure.
But is compromise a not-too-distant cousin?
I recall certain lines I read, some time back,
with a feeling of profound appreciation.
They went something like this:
Yes, I admire a person who has the courage
of their convictions – but do you know whom
I admire even more?
A person who has the greater courage to re-
examine and re-assess their convictions when
the need arises and change them. That takes
real courage.
That quote may be slightly errant, but I think
I’ve conveyed my recollection (and the author’s
sentiments) fairly.
Do constancy & consistency have an older, bigger
and stronger sibling? I suspect they do. More
than a few notables have made use of this quip:
Rules are for the guidance of the wise
and for the obeisance of fools
If nothing else, a principled life is a valid
and noteworthy aspiration.
Oh yes, Perry. Wise words indeed.
As the ancient philospher Ken-Yee Rah-Jeer said:
Standing up for Sue Tierney
I want to stick up for Sue Tierney. I’m not speaking on her behalf, just my own. As usual.
I can speak from first-hand experience in saying that civil litigation is a very expensive process … fraught with stress and difficult compromise.
Whether you think you’re in the right or not, litigation is a gamble, often involving strategy and brinksmanship, and the outcome is almost always uncertain.
Again, in my own observation, sometimes the personalities involved in litigation (clients and lawyers) can work against reaching a compromise … and disputes can go further than they probably should.
Disagreements that could have (maybe should have) been settled instead end up getting their own momentum — going “all the way” because of ego or because someone is locked into an unrealistic position. (The same thing happens in property deals.)
On top of that, many of us know the outcome of the justice system can sometimes be a considerable distance from justice (the law can be an ass) — especially when it comes to civil litigation or employment grievance-type matters.
I spoke to Sue about this on Tuesday (am I the only poster in this thread who has done so?) and my mind is at rest. I won’t say anything more about that conversation except this: Sue is not one to take such serious decisions lightly (just the opposite) — nor to act without competent, informed legal advice.
I like and I trust Sue Tierney. I’ll stand up for her and I’ll stand beside her.
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Peter Aranyi
Blog: http://www.ThePaepae.com
The reason I’ve tried to explain something of the ghastly stress and challenge one faces in litigation is because I think to understand this ‘controversial’ liquidation it needs to be seen in the context of the exhausting, drawn-out, shouldn’t-have-got-this-far legal/employment dispute.
In my personal view until one has faced a wasteful, wearying legal battle like that (as I have), I don’t think one’s ‘criticism’ of someone who has holds a lot of weight. It’s akin to chatter on the sidelines, or theory vs practice.
— Theodore Roosevelt, from “The Man In The Arena” Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, France – April 23, 1910
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Peter Aranyi
Blog: http://www.ThePaepae.com
Definition of spin:
Source: “Yeah, sure, we’ll probably talk about that newspaper story at our next scheduled APIA board meeting on Monday. It’ll be good to catch up with her about it.”
Media: “Shock Horror! The APIA board is holding a meeting to review Sue’s position as president of APIA!!!”
Source: “Well, gee, yeah, since you ask, we saw that story in the paper too. Pretty negative. I guess someone will ask Sue about it when we see her at the next NZMBA meeting. We’re curious to find out her side of things…”
Media: “… and (gasp) NZMBA is meeting to review Sue’s board membership!!
Source: “Huh? No, that’s their business. We don’t get involved in stuff like that. Why did you ring us?”
Media: “And you’ll never believe this: Principal sponsor of APIA says if the board and association have issues with its leadership … it’s a matter for them.” (Damn, how can we make that sound worse?)
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Peter Aranyi
Blog: http://www.ThePaepae.com
Whether you think you’re in the right or not, litigation is a gamble, often involving strategy and brinksmanship, and the outcome is almost always uncertain.
Never a truer word spoken. The russian roulette-cum-lotto-like aspects of legal processes may well be one of the reasons the legal profession is held in such low esteem by those outside their own ‘game.’
The palpable bias of many low-level entities like the Tenancy Tribunal adds to that perception. Misnomers abound, but I’ve yet to see a triumvirate at a TT Hearing. The tribunal is – in reality – a Unobunal. Another quaint political euphemism.
Cheers, Perry. I appreciate your comment.
Speaking of quaint wisdom, let me say this: I luv your work…
Very nice, Perry — perhaps with a bit of work it could be a haiku?
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